It is almost a consensus that boys need to take the initiative to chase girls. However, everything must have a degree. If the initiative is excessive, it will have the opposite effect. Below I will give you some common misunderstandings when chasing girls, so don’t step on them.
1. Overconfidence
It is a good thing for boys to be confident, but some boys can be So confident. I always feel that I am superior to others, which makes people hate me.
Another way to express true confidence is to affirm yourself while maintaining a humble and prudent attitude.
When expressing yourself, you must also know how to consider the other person and take care of the other person's feelings, so that others will appreciate you from the bottom of their hearts.
2. Excessive self-expression
When showing yourself, you must also grasp the appropriateness. Once you pass that point, Your display becomes showing off in the eyes of others.
In front of girls, you can show your strengths appropriately, but you must use the right method. For example, if you want to show that your grades are good, you can say: "I have nothing to do recently. If any students need to review materials or have any questions, you can ask me and I will help you answer them when I have time."
Not only does this implicitly show that you have good grades and do not have the airs of a top student, but it also allows those students who do not need to make up the exam to see your good character of being willing to help others.
3. Over-tolerance
Good people and good old people are just one word different, but they give people a different impression. Thousands of miles.
Although good people are kind to others, they also have their own principles.
Good old people are different. Invite me to dinner, no problem; buy me a brand-name bag, yes; lend me some money? OK.
In the end, do you want to be her boyfriend? No, I think you are a good person, but not my type.
Do you understand? The "good guys" in the good guy card are not necessarily purely good guys.
If others think you are a good person, they will be very willing to make friends with you.
If you give others the impression that you are a good old guy, they will only look down on you or attack you.
Tolerance and generosity are virtues, but excessive amounts can lead to cowardice.
Some boys want to make girls feel that they are broad-minded gentlemen through tolerance, but in fact, tolerance should have limits. Otherwise, such "tolerance" will only result in temporary enthusiasm, which will gradually turn into disregard and indifference. It can even be said that this can no longer be called tolerance, but connivance.
