Falling in love without the purpose of marriage is a hooliganism, so the ultimate goal of our falling in love must be to get married, so how to judge whether two people are suitable for marriage? The editor will talk about my own today Opinion, if you don’t like it, don’t comment.
There is a prerequisite for a happy marriage, which is the maturity of both men and women. Two mature people can be together, or two people can go together. Maturity can lead to a happy marriage, or at least try to avoid an unhappy marriage.
What does it mean to be a mature person?
In the editor’s opinion, it is to learn to love yourself first, to be a better version of yourself, and then to learn to love others, care for others, and receive care and give to others. Make others happy and make yourself happy. That is to say, "affection". There is kindness only when there is giving, and there is love only when there is emotion.
Today’s society is too utilitarian towards women. For example:
Suppose there are two girls, one is 24 years old, with big breasts and thin waist, innocent and lively, has never suffered or been tired;
The other is 32 years old, good-looking They are just normal people in body shape, but they have experienced social experience, are thoughtful and capable, can work in the hall and in the kitchen, can repair computers and dare to kick gangsters, can solve your puzzles, and can make up for your shortcomings, which one do you choose? ?
I believe that most Chinese men choose the one with big breasts and thin waist, which is why there are so many high-quality leftover women.
Regarding marriage and love, most people say that marriage is the tomb of love. This is too ridiculous. Marriage and love are not the same thing. The essence of love is that two people have a blast and feel happiness both physically and mentally.
The essence of marriage is for two people to raise their offspring together and feed back the previous generation. This is a hard and arduous process. A marriage with love will make people feel happy. Two people share the hard work together, but there will not be a happy marriage with only love.
Marriage has at least five aspects of value for both men and women:
Physical value, life value, economic value, ideological value, There is also soul value.
Because you and your partner have to have sex together, cook, wash and take care of the children, save money to buy a house, discuss things, and most importantly, you need someone to appreciate you, affirm you, and encourage you. You, support you, make your heart more perfect, your soul stronger, and your life happier.
It’s really hard to find such a partner, so the above are all ideal situations. Don’t be too picky. When you meet a person, you can achieve two out of five things, and the other three are just average. No big flaws, that's it.
So what should you do before you find one? Try to be a better version of yourself and bring more value to your future teammates. Come on~!
