Question:
I am about 175cm tall, average-looking, and my monthly salary is about 10,000 yuan. Since I received a relatively good family education since I was a child, I have not gotten into the bad habits of smoking, drinking, or gambling. I have the habit of saving money. Although I don’t have much money, I can still meet my daily consumption needs. I think I am in good condition. OK. But when I went on a blind date, I was still rejected by the girl who came to meet me. After that, I tried many blind dates, but was rejected by the girls one after another. The more I went on, the more disappointed I became. So am I a loser?
Why do girls on blind dates dislike me?
Answer:
This depends on what the girl on the blind date dislikes. You didn’t say anything about the girl’s feelings about you throughout the article, so there’s no way to know.
Furthermore, the word "dislike" is so serious. Is it because you have too much self-esteem and take it for granted? If a girl on a blind date dislikes you, it can only be said that she doesn't like you. Isn't this normal? Some people say that after more than 100 interviews, they didn’t find anyone they liked.
And it also depends on the conditions of the girls you are dating. My girlfriend’s colleagues, classmates, friends, etc., the first thing is to look at the face and height. After all, they all have good looks, graduate degrees, decent jobs, and good family conditions, so it's no problem to pay them hundreds of thousands. You didn't mention the girl's situation, so we can't judge!
Also, you said that you “have no bad habits” and “love to save money”. I think you are a bit silly. Generally boys may not flaunt themselves in these two aspects. So I guess you are not very good at communication, you are not an extrovert, and you are not good at sweet words and flirtations. Generally speaking, boys who are stupid are not very likable.
Especially since you said your height and appearance are average. If you are not very outstanding in terms of your car, rent, education, appearance, etc., and you do not have any attractions to attract girls, then the success rate of a blind date will not be too high.
But you don’t need to mind too much. You may be overly sensitive and have low self-esteem. Disappointment is the norm in life, both in oneself and in others. There's nothing we can do about it. Because many things don't go as smoothly as you expect. It doesn't matter if you say you are a loser.
It is recommended to correct your mentality, go on lots of blind dates, and review the situation every time you go home to find out where your problems lie. Think more carefully about where the problem occurred with the blind date girl. Then slowly improve. Practice makes perfect in anything, and quantitative changes lead to qualitative changes.
