Why do we feel afraid to approach someone we like? This can happen for a number of reasons. This issue will be discussed from several aspects below.
1. Fear of rejection
When we like someone, we naturally want to get close to him /Her, but at the same time, she is also worried about being rejected by the other party. This worry may come from past experiences or psychological problems such as social anxiety disorder. If you have never received a positive response, it is easier to develop this fear.
2. Fear of exposing our shortcomings
When pursuing someone, we usually try to show the best of ourselves. However, when we are truly close to each other, our shortcomings and shortcomings will inevitably be exposed. This exposure can make us feel ashamed and uncomfortable.
3. Fear of losing self-control
Some people will become nervous, excited or even lose self-control when facing someone they like. They may say the wrong thing or act awkwardly, which may affect the other person's impression of them. In this case, they are even more afraid of approaching each other.
4. Fear of breaking the existing balance
In some cases, we may have established a relatively stable relationship with the person we like. Although this relationship is not a romantic relationship, it also makes us feel comfortable and secure. If we try to change this relationship, we risk upsetting the existing balance and creating uncertainty and anxiety.
When we meet someone we like, the fear of getting close may be caused by the fear of rejection, exposing our shortcomings, losing self-control, or breaking the existing balance. To overcome this fear, you need to actively face your own problems and have the courage to try to build a closer relationship with the other person.
