I have good conditions but can’t find a partner. What is the problem? Chasing girls is a matter of skill and practice, so if you can’t find a partner, it may not be that your hard conditions are not enough. But there is a problem in thinking. Let’s take a look at the reasons why you have good conditions but can’t find a partner.
1. Lack of practice
Chasing girls requires repeated practice and accumulation of experience. If you just If you learn skills but don’t practice them, the target will naturally not come to your door.
Knowing and doing are completely different concepts, so you still have to do it. Otherwise, how do you know whether you will give up while doing it? So, if you want to be single, you must act quickly. yes.
2. Serious self-imposed limitations
Some boys like a girl, and even before they start pursuing her, I began to set limits on myself and felt that I was not worthy of others.
Why does this kind of thinking occur?
The Panama Effect says that people always believe in their own personality predictions that are tailor-made for themselves.
It means that you have denied yourself first. In fact, no one can define whether you are worthy of her, but you set limits in your own thinking, thinking that she is a goddess, but you are not worthy of her.
Your focus is on her beauty and figure, how could you think that she also has shortcomings?
But you completely ignore these and suppress them with reason. I have given myself a death sentence without thinking in all aspects. Isn’t this asking for trouble?
If you continue like this for a long time, then no matter when you meet a beautiful girl, you will behave very Being reserved will always send the message to girls that they are nervous and inferior.
3. Too closed to oneself
Many single boys almost have one thing in common, that is, they are surrounded by There are too few resources for women.
Looking through your circle of friends, except for seven aunts, eight aunts and unknown strangers, the rest of your contacts are all boys. Then you will have trouble talking to girls, let alone falling in love. .
When it comes to the reason, don’t you know something in your mind?
This is just like what Gu Cheng’s poem said: “You don’t want to plant flowers, you say I don’t want to see them. A little bit of withering. Yes, in order to avoid the end, you avoid the beginning of everything." But think about it from another perspective, the flower will eventually wither, but how much it adds to the world with its beauty. Color!
We may meet many people in our lives, and they will more or less inspire us, even if it is just one person.As a passer-by, as long as it can make our lives more beautiful, we can't miss it.
Your self-isolation has caused you to miss so many beautiful scenery, and how many people who want to be close to you have you missed?
Even if love is willing to patronize you, it doesn’t need you to give it. A chance, right?
