The most feared thing in relationships is cold violence. Cold violence is the most invisible killer of relationships. It seems to cause no harm, but it is deadly. So what are the substantial harms of cold violence in relationships?
There is a question: What is cold violence?
One respondent’s answer is still fresh in my memory: “If you have something to do, you will be like Zhong Wuyan, and if you have nothing to do, it will be summer and spring. But you, to him, are just Zhong Wuyan.”
p>The biggest experience of cold violence is that you use all your strength to punch, only to find that the opponent is like a ball of air.
Someone said: "I would rather you have a big quarrel with me than turn a blind eye like two strangers."
Cold violence is our psychological "construction" "Wall" behavior, the perpetrator builds a wall between the two parties. He or she pretends not to see, hear, respond, or respond to everything the other person says.
Cold violence is not just sad and painful, but a complete denial of another person.
What is more desperate than two people quarreling is that no matter what you say or do, the other person is always outside, just like a Like an outsider.
Cold violence in relationships cannot solve the problem, it will only consume mutual trust.
The China Law Society once conducted a social survey. Among families with conflicts, as many as 88% of families will ignore each other.
Ke Zhi, the director of a Chinese divorce website and a famous lawyer, said: "In fact, almost 100% of families will have cold violence to varying degrees."
Cold violence will only make one person Home becomes colder and more of a torment for people.
In fact, the essence of cold violence is "mental abuse", and no matter how beautiful the relationship is, it will be exhausted.
Cold violence is harmful to both the perpetrator and the victim.
Whether you do it intentionally or not, when you use cold violence, you are already hurting the other person.
Cold violence is essentially an escape behavior and cannot solve the fundamental problem at all.
The final result of two people who have been in cold violence for a long time is that the relationship ends and they part ways. And cold violence is the biggest killer of this relationship.
If you really want to separate, then say it openly. Don’t worry about the other party not being able to accept it. Don’t delay deliberately for the sake of face, because this kind of harm is similar to the harm caused by cold violence. Not worth mentioning.
As someone said: “It’s not shameful to break up in an upright way, but it’s shameful to find someone in advance.”After settling down, I force the breakup with perfunctory cold violence, then seamlessly connect, and finally want to be a good person. ”
